A month after my wedding and a week after being suddenly laid off from my (paid) job, I am still trying to remember what the hell I did with my free time before I started planning a wedding while working 65 hours per week. I have to say, I don't know. Do you?
Actually, a quick look around my house rings a bell. There are backpacks from our epic hiking trips and well-used workout gear from feeling the burn on a daily basis. There are the pets we fostered...and kept, and the cooking gadgets I used every night for project dinner. There are books. And then...there's torn wallpaper, way too many paint chips, stacks of bricks (yes), a bunch of noun-verb combos like tape measure, stud finder, and room divider.
Oh yeah. We were fixing up our old ass house like the time lapse montage in movies. I'm supposed to have a kerchief over my hair and he's supposed to be hauling something. We're both supposed to be laughing.
Before the wedding, we were fixing up our old ass house and we kind of stopped doing that in favor of planning our wedding. That shit takes a long time, let me tell you. Even if you're not uptight. Both the DI-Why and the wedding.
Anyhow, for the first time since we moved in a long time ago I noticed that we have no curtains, but we do have nosy neighbors. Kind of like I do not sew but I do have a pinterest page. So on day two of funemployment I hit google and hit it hard, looking for some trick to get out of sewing or purchasing curtains. And I found this! Please don't ask why, but I decided to show my husband. I was excited. About curtains.
"Oh for Christ's sake. Offbeat HOME?! We have this now?" he asked. He shook his head and explained, I thought we were done with all that Offbeat Bride shit, ugh, I can't believe there's more.
You probably had to be there, but it was hilarious and it was the first time I realized that he was aware of Offbeat Bride. I guess that's not surprising- OBB got me through a gnarly year of wedding industrial complex crap that seemed orchestrated to turn me and my friends into greedy teenage fake gender conforming princesses. Offbeat Bride was a refreshing, even comforting corner of the internet that suggests that it is in fact possible to have a wedding without losing your savings, your sanity, your tattoos, your feminist outlook, or your piercings. I did need some guidance for the wedding planning process and there really wasn't a whole lot of useful stuff in 31 Things You Don't Know About Bridal Manicure Trends-type publications. That crap has a way of messing with your mind with the suggestion that being engaged means you have to stop being Daria and turn into Quinn.
Considering that my husband's career has us living in a much more conservative community than I would have believed existed- before moving here- that access to "alternative" culture was especially important. If I still lived in Blue State Metropolitan Area, I probably wouldn't need that- my tattooed and pierced and vegan and genderqueer friends would have provided the validation I needed after dealing with wedding industrial vendors- but I don't, so I did.
Anyhow, after our wedding and during our home-making, I still need guidance because, among other things, I have no fucking clue how to make curtains. (No, buying them is not an option. Leave me alone.) So I found OffBeat Home and I love it there. I'll get back to you about the curtains.
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What do you think, folks? How's your home-making going, and what's been helping?